As a wedding planner, I’ve seen my fair share of wedding speeches. While they can be a great way to share your love and appreciation for the newlyweds, they can also be a source of anxiety and stress for the speaker. In this article, we’ll share the dos and don’ts of wedding speeches to help you prepare and deliver a memorable speech.

Do: Introduce Yourself
If you’re not the best man or maid of honor, it’s important to introduce yourself to the guests. This will help everyone understand your relationship to the couple and why you’re giving a speech.
Don’t: Make It All About You
While it’s important to share your personal experiences with the couple, don’t make your speech all about you. Keep the focus on the newlyweds and their love story.
Do: Practice
Practice makes perfect, so be sure to practice your speech multiple times before the big day. This will help you feel more comfortable and confident when delivering your speech.
Don’t: Wing It
While it may be tempting to wing your speech, it’s not recommended. Take the time to write out your speech and practice it beforehand to avoid any embarrassing moments or forgotten details.
Do: Keep It Positive
Your wedding speech should be a celebration of the newlyweds and their love. Keep your speech positive and uplifting, and avoid any negative or controversial topics.
Don’t: Drink Too Much
While it’s okay to have a drink or two to calm your nerves, don’t drink too much before giving your speech. You want to be clear-headed and coherent when delivering your speech.
Do: Thank the Guests
Take the time to thank the guests for being a part of the special day and for supporting the newlyweds. This is a great way to show your appreciation and gratitude.
Don’t: Use Inappropriate Language or Jokes
It’s important to keep your speech appropriate and respectful. Avoid using inappropriate language or making any offensive jokes that could offend or upset the guests.

Conclusion
Giving a wedding speech can be nerve-wracking, but with these dos and don’ts, you can deliver a memorable and heartfelt speech. Remember to introduce yourself, practice, keep it positive, and thank the guests. And most importantly, keep the focus on the newlyweds and their love story.
FAQs
- Who traditionally gives speeches at a wedding?
Traditionally, the best man, maid of honor, and father of the bride give speeches at a wedding, but anyone can give a speech if they are asked to.
- How long should a wedding speech be?
A wedding speech should typically be around 3-5 minutes, but it’s important to keep it concise and to the point.
- Can I use cue cards or notes during my speech?
Yes! It’s perfectly fine to use cue cards or notes during your speech to help you remember important details or to keep you on track.
- Can I give a joint speech with my spouse?
Absolutely! Joint speeches are a great way to share your love and appreciation for the newlyweds as a couple.
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